Saturday, September 22, 2012

An Epic Journey part 8

Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahiwabarakatuh...

Slowly but surely, here is the next part, may we all take the lesson from this one ayat. :)

“Kill Yusuf or cast him out to [another] land; the countenance [i.e., attention] of your father will [then] be only for you, and you will be after that a righteous people."

It is apparent from this ayah,
…that the brothers are determined to seek forgiveness for this sin before committing the crime.
The danger of falling prey to Shaytan’s whispers.
25. We should take heed from this part of the story by knowing that the truth should be adhered to in all situations, even if it means going against majority.
26. How sins gives rise to more sins.
27. How anger and jealousy lead to sin. Both characteristics are a result of the evil whispers of Shaytan, which only lead to evil, sins and tragedy.

Evils of Jealousy
Jealousy or envy is defined as resenting the blessing of Allah that has been granted to the one being envied. The envier wishes that the blessing were taken away from the other person regardless of whether he wants that blessings or not.

Existence of jealousy: proof from the Al-Qur’an
Many of the People of the Scripture wish they could turn you back to disbelief after you have believed, out of envy from themselves [even] after the truth has become clear to them. So pardon and overlook until Allah delivers His command. Indeed, Allah is over all things competent. – Al-Baqarah : 109

And from the evil of an envier when he envies." – Al-Falaq: 5

Hasad: when Allah gives somebody something and you wish you can have that by taking it away from that person.
Existence of jealousy: proof from the Sunnah
“ The Prophet said: The disease of a nation who came before you has started to spread among you: jealousy and hatred. This is the shaver (destroyer); I do not say that it shaves hair, but it shaves (destroys) faith. By the One Whose Hand is my soul, you will not enter paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell you of that which will strengthen the love between you? Spread (the greetings of) salam among yourselves. ” At-Tirmidhi
Scholars explain that the jealousy can be caused by:
Enmity: one has ill feeling for a person and does not want to see anything good happen to that person.

Ambition: it hurts one to see someone else progresses ahead or above oneself.

Pride and arrogance: when a person is self-conceited and arrogant, he feels jealous to witness anyone else progressing or doing better.

Astonishment: sometimes one feels astonished and surprised that another can do better than oneself.

Fear: that if another obtains something, then he himself might not have it.

Desire for power and prestige: sometimes one becomes jealous because one wants to make himself seem better by putting others down.

Evil nature and avarice of the heart: some people just do not like to see others happy. They want to see the whole world in misery and difficulty except themselves.
Remedies for jealousy
We must remember that it is haram and that it displeases Allah SWT.

An effective remedy to overcome jealousy is to strive to do good to the person we feel jealous to, especially in the matter that we feel jealous off. For example, if the jealousy tells us to harm a person or do bad things, try to do good, show more kindness or make that person happy.

This is not an easy task, but a necessary one. You will please Allah, avoid a sin and render your heart content and at peace.

If you see something good in or with another person and you also want the same thing for yourself, without hating the other person or wishing for that person to lose that good thing, then this is not called jealousy in Islam, its called Ghibtah.

It is narrated that the Prophet said: “Do not envy one another, do not sever ties with one another, do not hate one another, and be, O slaves of Allah, brothers.”

Abdullah Ibnu Mas’ud narrates that the Prophet SAW said: “Nothing deserve to be jealous of except when a person is given two things, (1) wealth and spend it well to the road of Allah, and (2) Al-Qur’an and Sunnah, and he understands, practise and spreads the teaching of both.”


Wednesday, September 19, 2012

9 oo 10 (nine out of ten)

I have not been excited to attend wedding for quite some time, but getting the invite for last Sat's wedding gives glimmer in my eyes (over la tu kan...hahaha..) Back in my diploma days, in the class I used to have this clan. There were 10 of us, anywhere we go, be it to the class, to the cafe, we always hang out together. I did blog about us here. Last Saturday was the wedding for Azs. This time we missed Nisah and Ecah. 8 out of 10 :) good enough!!
dengan pengantin...hubbynya pemalu...duduk kat bilik..hahaha....
Captured by Sarah's hubby, obviously an amateur :P. Kema and Amy was our mate from the same faculty but different course.
We got there around 1pm, after all the group pics session, Joe had to leave and we stayed there chatting still. Things did not ends there, we moved over to Ekin's house that was just 10 mins drive away. We chatted like schoolgirls while the kids had fun bringing the house upside down :P

We each make a move back to where we belong around 6.30. We had fun catching up. Its not easy to get the majority to be there at the same time. Hopefully there will be a next time, insyaAllah...!! :D